5 Secrets to Attract
The Opposite Sex
Like Ants To Grape Jelly.
By Lisa Daily
Want to quintuple your odds of winning in the dating game?
We surveyed a variety of top experts and learned five unbelievably
effective secrets to make the opposite sex come running.
Here's how you can use them to work for you:
1. BE THE CENTER OF ATTENTION
Want to be the one who gets noticed? Stand in the center of the
room. According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, the author of several books
and nationally-known expert in the field of spatial psychology, where
you are in a room (and what you're doing) has a lot to do with your
ability to attract the opposite sex. Where should you be for the
highest impact and the greatest number of interested cuties?
Smack-dab in the center of the room, standing up and moving around a
bit. (But don't pace a track on the carpet for goodness sake...)
If you're in a bar or nightclub, the best place to be is at one of the
corners on the bar. Not only will you meet more people, but,
according to Mehrabian, bartenters tend to gravitate toward the
corners as well. Interesting conversation AND a full drink? You'll
feel like you've died and gone to dating heaven. The worst place to be
seen? Hanging out near the wall or sitting at a table. That hot
stranger approaching your table and asking "may I join you" only
happens in the movies.
2. THE COLOR LURE
What color can you wear to compel the opposite sex to approach you?
According to Color Consultant Leatrice Eiseman, Director of the
Pantone Color Institute and author of Colors For Your Every Mood,
women are attracted to men wearing the color blue. And why wouldn't
we be? According to Eiseman, guys who frequently
wear blue are "stable, faithful, constant and always there." The blue
guy is a fantastic candidate for a long-term relationship -- someone
who's dependable, momogomous and can match his own clothes.
And what about the ladies? Eiseman says women should wear a pink-
peach to make themselves most approachable. The color is "very
flattering to most skin tones, it gives you healthy glow," and
according to Eiseman, projects "a little vulnerability which brings
out something protective in men."
Want to wear a color that weeds out guys who can't handle strong
women? Try a deep red, burgundy or plum. Men who aren't attracted to
strong women will steer clear.
Of all the colors, red is the most sensual. But, wear red with
caution. "Red is the color of sex and power," says Eiseman. Red adds
an element of excitement and attracts two types of men - men
interested in sex, and men attracted to powerful women. Sure, you'll
probably have to fend off a lot of freaks, but you could also end up
attracting a guy that isn't threatened by the fact that you make a
bigger salary.
Concerned your wardrobe is driving people away? Stay away from what
Eiseman calls "squished caterpillar yellow-green" which is said to
repel both sexes equally.
3. BODY TALK THAT REELS 'EM IN
How do you use body language to attract the opposite sex?
If you're a woman, the key is to make yourself
approachable. According to nationally-respected body language expert
and professional speaker, Patti Wood, you want to make yourself a
"safe" (read approachable) target. How do you accomplish that?
Don't take up a lot of space (which is a sign of power and
superiority.) Wood says, "we are strong women, but remember, we're
trying to get a man to come over and talk to us." She explains, "you
have to show you have room for someone else in your life."
In addition, Wood says "to be very approachable women should stand
with their feet no farther than 6 inches apart with toes pointed
slightly inward. " Other key moves, the nod and the head tilt -
signal you're listening to what the other person has to say.
For men, appearing more dominant effectively draws the attraction of
women. To attract women, stand with your feet 6-10 inches apart, and
toes pointing outward. Feel free to take up some space. For men who
are victims of the "nice guy" badge, or who appear to be too
submissive to attract women, try taking your Y chromosome out for a
spin. According to Mehrabian, men should "try wearing bulkier or more
conservative hairstyles or clothing," hold your head up, and speed up
your speech and gestures to be more assertive.
Body language tips for both sexes: Don't fold your arms and don't
chew on gum, ice or your fingernails. According to Wood, the chewing
indicates anxiety or frustration, neither of which are very attractive
emotions.
4. THE POWER OF A SMILE
Psychology and body language experts agree that one of the most
important things you can do to make yourself more attractive (and
approachable) is to smile. Not a great big plastic game-show smile,
just your normal "I'm having a great time and I'm happy to be here"
face will do the trick. According to Wood, "the smile is the
international signal of friendliness."
5. TEMPTING WITH SCENT
Studies show that men associate the scents of cinnamon and vanilla
with love. To make the scents work for you, try baking some
ready-made cinnamon rolls about an hour before your date arrives, or,
wear a cinnamon-vanilla scented perfume (there's a fabulous one called
"Man Magnet" at
www.stopgettingdumped.com .) Aromatherapy experts have
long-believed cinnamon to be an aphrodisiac. According to Laura
Davimes, aromatherapy and herb expert and owner of Herban Avenues,
"certain aromatic plants exude oils similar to our own sexual
secretions or pheromones. These
pheromones can greatly influence both social and sexual
behavior,transforming ordinary people into more interactive and
attractive beings. With essences like cinnamon, for example, and
vanilla, there is an added benefit from tapping into pleasant warm
memories of food and love and the sense of home."
The scent of a woman? Women, according to a recent study, are
attracted to a black licorice scent. So, be sure to pick up licorice
or Good 'n Plenty at the theater snack bar. And, if you're at a club
and happen to spill a little Jaggermeister on your shirt,
don't worry about the stain, just consider it your lucky night.
